We went on an impromptu shopping trip. Not with the intention of buying anything…more to get a feel for R’s style. She picked out a nice 1 piece bathing suit (didn’t actually buy it) likes overall shorts and saw some cute ass shirts she loved. Hoping her father files his taxes soon so we can use some of it to add to her wardrobe for next uear. Plus she needs some summer clothes as well.
Archive for March, 2015
For those close enough (or willing to travel) Dr. Hawkins with Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia is GREAT! R and I saw her yesterday and immediately R was at ease in talking to her. She obviously feels strongly that R isn’t just experimenting and this isn’t “just a phase”. Dr. Hawkins is referring us to an Endocrinologist and asking the PCP to order a few tests to determine where R is with puberty so we better know when blockers should be started.
Between speaking to me and speaking to R she feels there is consistent and persistent feelings. She will (obviously) meet with us more but as R has been expressing this since such a young age she feels this is the right direction for R ‘ s needs.
She will also refer us to a therapist closer to home (she refers out to 3 in our home state) to help guide R through social transitioning at school and with family.
Dr. Linda Hawkins
3550 Market St
Barbara is the one who gets all the information for your child to get them into the system and get insurance approval:
I am also seriously considering (in a few years) going back to school to become an advocate for the LGBTQ/IA kids. Not all parents give the unconditional love. While counseling the kids is admirable, your hands are tied in actually DOING for them. As an advocate I could do so much more!
I really don’t expect an immediate change, but I don’t feel like anyone in this house except me and the oldest daughter are even attempting to use proper name or pronouns.
If by April 1st I still don’t see any effort I am going to tell R not to answer anyone unless they get her pronouns or name right!
Maybe that’s a touch over dramatic but she will be presenting female at school. How can I expect her to command respect there when she doesn’t receive it at home!?
That it is time.
1st: T chose a new name and I formed everyone they need to use the she/her pronouns (she will now be referred to by R here on the blog). The name she chose was my grandmother’s name. She never knew my grandmother’s name!
Sign 2: a friend posted this
Sign 3: a different friend posted this
Why did these things come at the perfect time you ask? R’s older brother outed her to a schoolmate today. R has been having some serious anxiety all day because of it. She decided that she wants the school to know. I will be meeting with a few staff members tomorrow. R will stay home with me and return on Wednesday.
We are starting to draft a letter to family and friends who do not know yet.
I think we are both ready for this!
… T is just FABULOUS. I am so lucky that this brave and self-aware human being chose me as their mom. I am inspired a little more every day by this kiddo.
All day we were all over the place in social settings and T never seemed to cower. Even better, T didn’t get 1 odd look 🙂
Even used the girls bathroom in every place we went. So very proud ❤
T is out in public with their nails painted and “girl” clothes on.
This AM when my middle daughter asked “he or she” T said (loudly and proudly) “SHE”.
AFTER my son’s dr appointment we are going to visit a friend. T knows pictures could be taken and still chose to be theirself 🙂
T feels comfortable in their pink clothes today 🙂
Nails painted to match of course.