Navigating the World with a Gender-Fabulous Child

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Quite Upset

I heard that a staff member was speaking about R today. This staff member called her a monstrosity. Supposedly  no one knows which staff member  it was but we all know that’s  a lie.
I am hoping  that said staff member  is so disturbed  by R’s presence  at the school that she quits and doesn’t  come back next year. I have a feeling  who it was but a feeling isn’t proof. Luckily  R doesn’t  know and didn’t  hear about  it.

R’s 1st Day

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It went SO well that she feels comfortable  wearing  a skirt tomorrow  :).
Another child came up to my boss (the breakfast  and lunch aide) and asked how R got permission  to do this bc she has been telling her parents for years that she’s not a girl, she’s a boy and they just won’t  listen to her. Broke my heart.
One little girl was a little confused  about the bathroom  situation  but R, the principal  and the bullying  specialist  explained it well.
Again, this little girl is my HERO!

A new 1st day of school

R will be transitioning  at school tomorrow. Summer is just too far away and she was having trouble with pretending  to be a boy at school.
The principal  called a staff meeting  to make staff aware that he expects  and DEMANDS that R be respected  and that he will not tolerate their personal views effecting the way R is treated.  Only 2 staff members  seemed distressed  but the news of having  a transgender  child at school.
R doesn’t  care what they think. The fact is that out of ALL that staff there were only 2. My friend heard some of the staff talking about  how wonderful  it is that R can be herself and demand that others treat her with dignity  and respect  because they knew people (family or friends) that couldn’t when they were in school.
I cannot  say it enough… my child  is my hero!

R had a great weekend

She asked us to announce  her transition. She then spent an entire day with her cousins  as herself. No one used the wrong name or misgendered  her. Sunday  the Easter  Bunny  got her new name right.
Then came Monday  night. The thought of going to  school on Tuesday  as a boy made her so upset. She originally  wanted to wait until  this summer to fully transition, but that’s  all changed. As of April  13 she intends  on being Rose ALL THE TIME.
Meeting  with her principal  today.
Here’s pics of her easter stuff

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To the doctor we went

For those close enough (or willing  to travel) Dr. Hawkins  with Children’s  Hospital  of Philadelphia  is GREAT! R and I saw her yesterday  and immediately  R was at ease in talking to her. She obviously  feels strongly that R isn’t  just experimenting and this isn’t  “just a phase”. Dr. Hawkins  is referring  us to an Endocrinologist  and asking  the PCP to order a few tests to determine  where R is with puberty  so we better know when blockers should be started.
Between  speaking  to me and speaking  to R she feels there is consistent  and persistent  feelings. She will (obviously) meet with us more but as R has been expressing this since such a young age she feels this is the right direction  for R ‘ s needs.
She will also refer us to a therapist  closer to home (she refers out to 3 in our home state) to help guide R through social transitioning  at school and with family.
Dr. Linda Hawkins
3550 Market St
Philadelphia, PA

Barbara  is the one who gets all the information  for your child to get them into the system  and get insurance  approval:
1-215-590-3869

I am also seriously  considering   (in a few years) going back to school to become an advocate for the LGBTQ/IA  kids. Not all parents give the unconditional  love. While counseling  the kids is admirable, your  hands are tied in actually  DOING for them. As an advocate  I could do so much more!