Navigating the World with a Gender-Fabulous Child

Posts tagged ‘LGBTQ’

I feel like no one is trying.

I really don’t expect an immediate  change, but I don’t feel like anyone in this house except  me and the oldest daughter are even attempting to use proper name or pronouns.
If by April  1st I still don’t see any effort I am going to tell R not to answer anyone unless they get her pronouns  or name right!
Maybe that’s a touch over dramatic but she will be presenting  female at school. How can I expect her to command respect there when she doesn’t  receive  it at home!?


Signs, Signs, everywhere signs

That it is time.
1st: T chose a new name and I formed everyone  they need to use the she/her pronouns   (she will now be referred to by R here on the blog). The name she chose was my grandmother’s  name. She never knew my grandmother’s  name!
Sign 2: a friend  posted this


Sign 3: a different  friend posted this


Why did these things come at the perfect  time you ask? R’s  older brother outed her to a schoolmate  today. R has been having some serious anxiety  all day because of it. She decided  that she wants the school to know. I will be meeting with a few staff members  tomorrow. R will stay home with me and return on Wednesday.
We are starting to draft a letter to family and friends who do not know yet.
I think we are both ready for this!

Leave the Gender out

… T is just FABULOUS. I am so lucky that this brave and self-aware human being chose me as their mom. I am inspired a little more every day by this kiddo.
All day we were all over the place in social settings and T never seemed to cower. Even better, T didn’t  get 1 odd look 🙂
Even used the girls  bathroom  in every place we went. So very proud ❤

Big step today

T is out in public  with their nails painted and “girl” clothes  on.
This AM when my middle daughter asked “he or she” T said   (loudly and proudly) “SHE”.
AFTER my son’s dr appointment  we are going to visit  a friend. T knows pictures  could be taken and still chose to be theirself  🙂

Book Recommendation


This is an amazing book that will have you laughing, crying and thinking “aaaha!”
It is also  the inspiration  for this blog.

Gender-fluid, Gender Non-conforming, Transgender

None of these terms automatically  = homosexual.
T has made it abundantly  clear that they have 0 intentions  of dating a boy. T likes girls. T wants to marry a girl. T wants to have a family  with a girl. T just enjoys a more feminine  existence.

Underneath it all

T wears funky socks and pretty panties  every day. They won’t wear any of the more feminine  clothes to school out of fear. I wish the world was different  for my child (and all children).
I wish T could be free to be themself  eberywhere.