Navigating the World with a Gender-Fabulous Child

A new 1st day of school

R will be transitioning  at school tomorrow. Summer is just too far away and she was having trouble with pretending  to be a boy at school.
The principal  called a staff meeting  to make staff aware that he expects  and DEMANDS that R be respected  and that he will not tolerate their personal views effecting the way R is treated.  Only 2 staff members  seemed distressed  but the news of having  a transgender  child at school.
R doesn’t  care what they think. The fact is that out of ALL that staff there were only 2. My friend heard some of the staff talking about  how wonderful  it is that R can be herself and demand that others treat her with dignity  and respect  because they knew people (family or friends) that couldn’t when they were in school.
I cannot  say it enough… my child  is my hero!


R had a great weekend

She asked us to announce  her transition. She then spent an entire day with her cousins  as herself. No one used the wrong name or misgendered  her. Sunday  the Easter  Bunny  got her new name right.
Then came Monday  night. The thought of going to  school on Tuesday  as a boy made her so upset. She originally  wanted to wait until  this summer to fully transition, but that’s  all changed. As of April  13 she intends  on being Rose ALL THE TIME.
Meeting  with her principal  today.
Here’s pics of her easter stuff






We went on an impromptu  shopping trip. Not with the intention  of buying  anything…more to get a feel for R’s  style. She picked out a nice 1 piece bathing suit (didn’t actually  buy it) likes overall  shorts and saw some cute ass shirts she loved. Hoping  her father files his taxes soon so we can use some of it to add to her wardrobe  for next uear. Plus she needs some summer clothes as well.

To the doctor we went

For those close enough (or willing  to travel) Dr. Hawkins  with Children’s  Hospital  of Philadelphia  is GREAT! R and I saw her yesterday  and immediately  R was at ease in talking to her. She obviously  feels strongly that R isn’t  just experimenting and this isn’t  “just a phase”. Dr. Hawkins  is referring  us to an Endocrinologist  and asking  the PCP to order a few tests to determine  where R is with puberty  so we better know when blockers should be started.
Between  speaking  to me and speaking  to R she feels there is consistent  and persistent  feelings. She will (obviously) meet with us more but as R has been expressing this since such a young age she feels this is the right direction  for R ‘ s needs.
She will also refer us to a therapist  closer to home (she refers out to 3 in our home state) to help guide R through social transitioning  at school and with family.
Dr. Linda Hawkins
3550 Market St
Philadelphia, PA

Barbara  is the one who gets all the information  for your child to get them into the system  and get insurance  approval:

I am also seriously  considering   (in a few years) going back to school to become an advocate for the LGBTQ/IA  kids. Not all parents give the unconditional  love. While counseling  the kids is admirable, your  hands are tied in actually  DOING for them. As an advocate  I could do so much more!

I really don’t expect an immediate  change, but I don’t feel like anyone in this house except  me and the oldest daughter are even attempting to use proper name or pronouns.
If by April  1st I still don’t see any effort I am going to tell R not to answer anyone unless they get her pronouns  or name right!
Maybe that’s a touch over dramatic but she will be presenting  female at school. How can I expect her to command respect there when she doesn’t  receive  it at home!?

That it is time.
1st: T chose a new name and I formed everyone  they need to use the she/her pronouns   (she will now be referred to by R here on the blog). The name she chose was my grandmother’s  name. She never knew my grandmother’s  name!
Sign 2: a friend  posted this


Sign 3: a different  friend posted this


Why did these things come at the perfect  time you ask? R’s  older brother outed her to a schoolmate  today. R has been having some serious anxiety  all day because of it. She decided  that she wants the school to know. I will be meeting with a few staff members  tomorrow. R will stay home with me and return on Wednesday.
We are starting to draft a letter to family and friends who do not know yet.
I think we are both ready for this!